Stephanie Barnes
When you meet and interact with someone, you typically get a read on their personality. As you continue to get to know them, you start seeing who they are and whether they’d make a good addition to your life. These people can become friends or even romantic partners. But sometimes, your intuition gets loud and starts screaming at you to run the other way. Sometimes you listen and sometimes you don’t.
In a recent Reddit thread, women are responding to the question: “Women who gave the creep a chance, how did it go?”
In the thread, which comes with a NSFW tag, women explained what happened when they ignored their “gut feelings.” The experiences range from manipulation and stalking to having someone randomly pee in a washing machine. Just FYI: Reading the experiences of these women will be heavy, and may have triggering effects.
Here are 20 responses from women who gave creeps a chance.
1. “I ignored my gut feeling about him…”
I ignored my gut feeling about him, overlooked his strange tendencies & tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. We were together for almost two years. The entire relationship, he added girls he didn’t even know on Snapchat & would say rather inappropriate things to them. Being that you know nothing about strangers on that app, I’m now aware that one of the girls was a minor (he was 26). On my 22nd birthday he had invited my best friend to sleep in our bed with us, & the first time he met my SISTER he gave her the same invitation. He gave both of those invitations right in front of my face. When we were out together & he saw someone attractive he wouldn’t just glance, he stared. He regularly talked shit on my family, & is just generally an awful person. I was his first real girlfriend & he was/is extremely self centered & mentally abusive. That ended almost a year ago & he still goes to our regular hang outs & asks about me, when I come in, where I’m living, who I’m seeing, etc.
amwillyams
2. He read her diary
He secretly made a copy of my house key and would let himself in while I was at work to read my diary.
Muguet_de_Mai
3. The washing machine incident
I walked in on him peeing in my washing machine after letting him in my home for some reason.
K1lg0reTr0ut
4. He couldn’t live without her
He slit his wrists and showed me on FaceTime the blood dripping out while he was crying. Just because I broke up with him.
itsmetheshygirl
A friends ex did the same, he only sent photos though. We called an ambulance who called the fire department to break open his front door. It turned out to be hot sauce. He had to pay for the whole, pricy event. She never heard from him again!
TessiSue
5. Ignored boundaries and then some
He was older than me, wouldn’t respect boundaries, pressured me to do things, texted hundreds of times a day, then the next day completely iced me out. Phoned 10-14 times one afternoon, I tried the same thing back to him, he screamed at me to never call him again. Later threatened self harm if I didn’t talk to him. Harassed me at work. Turns out he was married the whole time, but they were separated?
Wanted me to go in the woods with him one day. I walked/ ran away as fast as I could.
0Jinxy
6. “Wasn’t my type and seemed a little off, but I was young and had zero real dating experience…”
Met him when I worked as a cashier in a small downtown shop. Wasn’t my type and seemed a little off, but I was young and had zero real dating experience. Agreed to grab coffee as a friend and made it clear I didn’t have a romantic interest. He became convinced he was Gatsby and I was his Daisy (the Great Gatsby film had just come out that year). Started stalking me and endlessly sending letters and gifts to me at work describing how we were fated to be together. When I confronted him to stop, he started having his friends follow me at work or drop by to “check in” on me. Prowled outside on nights I had to close shop alone. I ended up quitting that job and things fizzled. Seven months later I got a call from a number I didn’t recognize. It was the same dude — he just got released from a short prison sentence and was letting me know he thought of me every day and was going to find me so we could finally be together. I made up a story that I was travelling abroad for college and would be gone indefinitely. Changed my number and luckily haven’t heard from him again!
justascrolling
7. He had mental health issues
Guy had serious untreated mental health problems, which resulted in him spending four years stalking me and making me resent giving that one chance. I made multiple calls to police and paramedics because he would call me up threatening suicide unless I would help him.
He still finds me on social medias and random gaming apps to say “hi, I miss you” but I now live more than 1000km away.
WittyMathematician1
8. He kept video calling
Did one video chat with him during which he asked if he could (video) call me again later in the day. When I told him “no I’ll be busy” I started getting random text messages throughout my day that said “are you okay? Just let me know you’re okay”. The first I responded to, I said “hey — yeah, I’m fine. I just hung up with you 30 minutes ago bud.” He took that as a sign that I wanted to talk more so he attempted another video call. When I didn’t respond, he started again with the texts. Didn’t even bother responding to the rest. Up to 20 unread messages later before I was able to block him while leaving him on read.
Wazoo53
9. He became obsessed
He got very obsessed with me, I had to be straight up rude to get him to leave me alone because he wouldn’t understand when I asked nicely.
He later self harmed on his own wrists and went around telling people to ask me why he did that
Edit : might be relevant, but I was 17 and he was 26.
smolbibeans
10. “I gave him a chance in high school…”
I was 15 he was 18. Ended with him sticking his tongue down my throat several times quite aggressively, joking about stabbing me as he lunged a knife at me and laughed about it while carving pumpkins, and threatened to shoot up the school with a list of names, my friend and I’s being top of the list. He got suspended and no one ever saw him again. Update: My friends and I found out he’s now in the military.
powerhouseofthiscell
11. She felt it…
Knew he was weird before the first date. I was sad and thought maybe he’d be different in person. Showed up to the date and he walked with a crazy limp, told me he was into pee stuff, wouldn’t pay for dinner, tried to kiss me 3 times. When I got home that night he sent me a full body nude completely out of the blue. I never saw him again. He texted me 3 months later to tell me I was the worst human and most selfish person he’s ever met. And then he blocked me.
pamshmam
12. Trigger warning: Sexual assault
He sexually assaulted me and got mad when I told him I just wanted to be friends. The friends part was to get him to leave my house.
pinkberrry
13. He stalked her
He made videos of himself crying because I “broke his heart” after him knowing me for a month. He told everyone I was just a fat whore who used men (I didn’t take anything from him or have sex with him.) I gave him a whole month and every time I would hang out he would keep me up until 3am crying that I didn’t love him. It was bad.
ayyoowhatevr
14. Creep from the beginning
Went on a first date for just drinks with a guy, and red flags were immediate. Didn’t look anything like his profile, and got handsy almost as soon as we sat down. I wasn’t into him at all, but we had a shared interest in horror novels, so I decided to extend the date into dinner. During dinner, he drank several Old Fashions while I nursed a single beer. He then told me he thought we were soulmates, and he thought we were going to fall in love. He also told me his ex-girlfriend was going to get an abortion the next day.
At the end of the date, his portion of the bill was significantly more than my portion because of all his drinks, but he asked me to pay half, which I did. On top of that, he gave me shit for driving to the date even though it was only a mile from my house (I didn’t want to walk in hot weather in my nice date dress and I had twisted my ankle earlier that week). But even after giving me shit for driving, he asked me to give him a lift home. Which I did.
Once we were in front of his place, he refused to get out of my car unless I went inside with him for a night cap. I said absolutely not. He begged me to just enjoy a drink on his front porch. I said no. I told him to get out of my car. He finally did.
The next day, he texted me telling me that was the best date he’d ever had and he couldn’t wait to see me again. I told him no thank you, and walked away with one lesson learned: I need to just say no from the beginning.
conceitedpolarbear
15. Trigger Warning: Rape
We were hanging at the bar with mutual friends and he invited me back to his place for an after party. Turned out the after party was a lie. He raped me. So yeah, never again.
MissWiggly2
16. Negging
He tried negging me all night and when he asked me how many siblings I have, I told him and included the info that one passed away a few years prior. He asked me if I had killed my sibling.
If they give you the creeps, they’re not worth a chance. Sorry, not sorry.
forgetfuljones79
17. “He stabbed my end table with a knife after getting upset with me…”
He stabbed my end table with a knife after getting upset with me. Then started stalking me. I moved and invested in cameras for my house and a dash cam. One million emails, police reports, etc. oh and his twin brother raped and stalked girls a few years prior. Ended up killing two police officers. Seems like “creep” runs in the family.
Edit: the twin brother murdered. Not my ex. Maybe would have been killed myself if I stuck around long enough.
perrylapew
18. “It turns out he was a serial creep preying on freshman girls…”
I bought him a coffee one time and we chatted about our music tastes. Three days later, I was sitting in my dorm and I got a text from him that was just a selfie. I sent one back and the conversation got really boring so I sent him a snap of a black screen. He responded, “are you in a dark place?” And I said “yeah lol”. His response was “well you’ll have to leave soon because you have class in (insert building with insert professor) at 6:00.”
I literally never told him anything about my classes so he just fucking stalked me until he learned my entire schedule. It turns out he was a serial creep preying on freshman girls.
Crazybish123
19. “The waiter asked me if I wanted to set up a code word…”
A few years ago, I went to a brewery to meet a guy on a date for the first time. The waiter began a conversation and asked me if I was expecting anyone else. I told him I was on a blind date and hadn’t met the guy before.
The waiter asked me if I wanted to set up a code word. Since they didn’t serve milk stouts, if I ordered one from him, he would know something is up and would call me back to have me sign the receipt instead. The waiter kept checking on me frequently…
Eventually, I did order a milk stout… when it came time for the bill, I asked for it to be split. My date put his drinks on my bill.
When the waiter came back, he told me he had the drinks removed; it was on the house. When my date asked me what that was all about, I told him the waiter had told me there was something wrong with my card, so I needed to go to bar with him.
I waited awhile and then left for my car. The date was still there. He made a comment about how he was waiting for a good bye hug. I told him, no thank you and that my car was in the opposite direction.
Moments later, he sent me horrendous text messages.
..and thank you, John. You may have saved my life that day.
MSAPIOPsych
20. He dropped the “L” word
On our first date, he told me he loved me and that he would let me pick out the color of our house. The rest of the evening was super awkward. I never talked to him again.
willingtoeatsushi