You’d be surprised at how easy it is to hide toxic behavior.
Ask anyone who’s been told “We’re like family here” from an emotionally manipulative boss. It seems welcoming and gives you the warm-fuzzies at first, but after a few months at the job, that “family” is looking more like your creepy uncle and less like your nurturing mother.
It turns out, toxic wholesomeness — more commonly known as “toxic positivity” — is very common. We learned this through a recent Reddit post in the r/askreddit subreddit.
User Uttervik was curious to hear from other Redditors about toxic positivity so they asked:
“What are “wholesome” things that are actually toxic?”
As you can imagine, general toxic positivity was mentioned a lot. Phrases like “good vibes only” and “be positive” popped up in the thread, with users saying this mindset invalidates what other people are feeling.
Below are 20 examples from the thread.
Using your child for likes on social media, that’s creepy I never understood why would any parent do thatKashboii
All those fake animal rescue videos on YouTube.Midlux
People that tell you “you wont fail …”. I get what they are trying to say but there is a certain point where I just want to hear “its ok if you fail”Joshi3003
Corporations who spend $50 million on ads to tell you about the amazing $1 million they spent on a charity program.DeFex
Social media posts of people sharing their “good deed” or “act of kindness.” Especially when it’s some annoying elaborate thing that completely ignores existing social supports (like collecting and then handing out food donations instead of oh, idk, REGULARLY SUPPORTING THE FOOD BANK) or they just give money to a “poor” person and then force that person to pose with them. Or worse – film them.canadianlupa
Glorifying feeding animals into obesitysaladsnake34
Any viral story about some kid selling shit to pay for a relatives healthcare.natelopez53
The expectation to keep your family members in your life no matter what they do. Some people have families that treat them like absolute shit, and being related to them isn’t a good reason to keep them around. It’s ok to cut off toxic family members.Weirdo_666_420
“We’re all just one big family!” If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run. They’re only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.Andromeda321
Pugs, other animals like the cats who has a body shape like a dachshund. Any pets bred to look a certain way without it actually having any other purpose than being cute.I_Like_Lasanga1
Supporting someone no matter what choices they make. You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.Background-Pop9203
Most relationships shown on TV.cricketmgss
“Good Vibes Only” posting. Let people experience real emotions, Sarah, not insta-perfect emulations of surfer chillcheeriotaem
Proposing in front of a crowd. Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.HeliosHeliodes
All inspiration porn. “Football player asks girl with cerebral palsy out to prom” is really just saying “hero stoops to level of gross disabled child for one day”. It’s dehumanizing.heather7900
Receiving recognition for perfect attendance. My ass that you never got sick.Negafox
Asking babies to hug and kiss peopleHills1849
Asking children if they have a boyfriend/girlfriendIsawonline
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