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People Are Sharing Things That Sound Wholesome But Are Actually Toxic, So Listen Up (20 Posts)

You’d be surprised at how easy it is to hide toxic behavior.

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Ask anyone who’s been told “We’re like family here” from an emotionally manipulative boss. It seems welcoming and gives you the warm-fuzzies at first, but after a few months at the job, that “family” is looking more like your creepy uncle and less like your nurturing mother.

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It turns out, toxic wholesomeness — more commonly known as “toxic positivity” — is very common. We learned this through a recent Reddit post in the r/askreddit subreddit.

User Uttervik was curious to hear from other Redditors about toxic positivity so they asked:

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“What are “wholesome” things that are actually toxic?”

As you can imagine, general toxic positivity was mentioned a lot. Phrases like “good vibes only” and “be positive” popped up in the thread, with users saying this mindset invalidates what other people are feeling.

Below are 20 examples from the thread.

1.

Using your child for likes on social media, that’s creepy I never understood why would any parent do that

Kashboii

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2.

All those fake animal rescue videos on YouTube.

Midlux

3.

People that tell you “you wont fail …”. I get what they are trying to say but there is a certain point where I just want to hear “its ok if you fail”

Joshi3003
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4.

Corporations who spend $50 million on ads to tell you about the amazing $1 million they spent on a charity program.

DeFex

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Social media posts of people sharing their “good deed” or “act of kindness.” Especially when it’s some annoying elaborate thing that completely ignores existing social supports (like collecting and then handing out food donations instead of oh, idk, REGULARLY SUPPORTING THE FOOD BANK) or they just give money to a “poor” person and then force that person to pose with them. Or worse – film them.

canadianlupa

6.

Family vlogging.

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7.

Glorifying feeding animals into obesity

saladsnake34

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8.

Any viral story about some kid selling shit to pay for a relatives healthcare.

natelopez53

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The expectation to keep your family members in your life no matter what they do. Some people have families that treat them like absolute shit, and being related to them isn’t a good reason to keep them around. It’s ok to cut off toxic family members.

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10.

Hustle culture

Axes4Praxis

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“We’re all just one big family!” If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run. They’re only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.

Andromeda321

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Pugs, other animals like the cats who has a body shape like a dachshund. Any pets bred to look a certain way without it actually having any other purpose than being cute.

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Supporting someone no matter what choices they make. You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.

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14.

Most relationships shown on TV.

cricketmgss

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“Good Vibes Only” posting. Let people experience real emotions, Sarah, not insta-perfect emulations of surfer chill

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16.

Proposing in front of a crowd. Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.

HeliosHeliodes

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17.

All inspiration porn. “Football player asks girl with cerebral palsy out to prom” is really just saying “hero stoops to level of gross disabled child for one day”. It’s dehumanizing.

heather7900

18.

Receiving recognition for perfect attendance. My ass that you never got sick.

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19.

Asking babies to hug and kiss people

Hills1849

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20.

Asking children if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend

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