There’s no kind of test for being a parent, or even too many classes on what healthy parenting looks like. Most people are learning as they go, or recreating what they got from their parents, or trying to avoid what their parents did and falling into other traps instead.
That’s a very generous interpretation of what’s happening in the replies to a thread started by teacher @EmilyVanDuyne about the cruelest stuff parents ever said to their kids, and what the kids remember about it.
“Does anyone else ever remember a cruel thing your parent said to you & it takes the wind out of you? Even if it was almost ten years ago?” they asked.
Anyone can have a bad day, or say something awful in a moment of frustration or anger, but when a kid hears something like that from their parent, it sticks with them in a very different way than from a stranger. While some of these parents may have been having a bad moment, a lot of them seem like they might just be mean.
Don’t be a mean parent—be someone who always tries to make sure your kids have more good memories and bad down the road.