If you’ve never had a baby or anything to do with childbirth, you’re about to learn a terrible truth: a not insignificant number of people giving birth to a baby poop at the same time. It’s horrifying, but it’s also a natural part of life and kind of the obvious consequence of trying to push something huge out of yourself for hours on end.
However, Redditor u/No-Care3049 was not expecting it and neither was her husband, and she was pretty embarrassed when it happened. She shouldn’t, but it’s understandable why she is—especially when we learn a bit more about her husband.
The OP turned to r/AmItheA–hole to see if she was out of line when she blew up on her husband for making fun of her pooping while giving birth to his child. The 25-year-old says the baby’s birth was just a few weeks ago:
When I went into labor I had the most difficult time of my life, I was in pain for hours. My mom was with me but she had to go and my husband was with me the entire time.
I did something so embarrasing in the delivery room, I pooped myself which was unexpected and just…I don’t know but it was embarrassing and although my medical team were very professional about it, my husband couldn’t help himself and started laughing about it later and even telling my family about it.
But they didn’t react, just didn’t find it funny and neither did I, In fact, I found it embarrassing and I already told him to stop bringing it up especially when he started joking about getting me diapers for my “opsies!!”.
It got really tiring and chipped away from my self esteem and confidence.
The OP says they were visiting her husband’s parents on New Year’s Eve when she excused herself for the restroom:
I was getting up he made a quick remark and said “oh yeah, you should go quickly because we don’t want any accidents just like the one we had at the hospital, you know what I mean?” While blinking at me.
His family actually laughed and BIL commented “good one!”. I was astonished and so angry and ashamed, I literally just lost it on him and yelled at the top of my lungs calling him a cruel insensitive jerk to be using the difficult experience of birthing his child as a joking matter and humiliating me in front of everybody.
He was shocked, staring back at me and not saying a word. All went silent and I just stormed off to the bathroom til we left and that was when he snapped saying I messed up by talking to him like that in front of his family during dinner, I said I couldn’t hold my tongue for that long and after he kept joking about an embarrassing thing when I told him to stop.
He said he was just joking and I went overboard with my reaction and also, I should’ve sucked it up and waited til we got home so we could address this privately and I could even yell at him as long as I wanted.
We argued about it after we got home and he kept saying I humiliated him inf ront of his family during the celebratory evening by being petty and trying to one up him… He even said I should’ve laughed along not fly off the handle liks that.
The OP wanted to know if she was overreacting. The thing is, that kind of reaction to him joking the very first time, in private, might be kind of big, though honestly if the person you just birthed a baby for got on your case like that I can see getting upset no matter how many times they did it.
But this guy had been harassing her for weeks about it, was told to stop, and then chose to do it again where he thought he could get a laugh.
A lot of commenters told the OP that this is a common form of abuse, where someone bothers you about the same thing again and again and again until you freak out, usually around other people, making you look like the crazy one. They all told her to GET OUT!
Everyone reading is hoping that the OP finds a way out of this situation and dumps her husband.