Actress Kristen Bell is not squeamish about sex talk. She spoke with Rachel Bilson and Olivia Allen on their new podcast Broad Ideas about how she approaches the conversation with daughters Lincoln, 9, and Delta, 7.
Bell, who shares her children with Dax Shepherd, explained that it’s “important to give them a little bit more context about how its relative” instead of just a science lesson.
She says she frames the context by talking about sex with Dax and what it means for them: “Daddy and I do this because we have those feelings towards each other. There are feelings we each get in our private parts for each other. We also get in our brains and in our bellies.'”
“Remember how you weren’t interested in swimming, and then you got interested in swimming? You’ll hit a point where you’re starting to have those feelings,” Bell says she told her daughters. “It’s going to feel butterflies are in your stomach and it’s going to feel like your crotch is on fire and it’s going to feel like a whole bunch of things like that.’ And they’re like, ‘Really?'”
Bell also shared an important tip for talking about sex with children that she got from actress Michelle Monaghan.
“When you’re having the sex talk, the one thing to make it even more sex-positive is when you say, ‘And then the man put his penis in the woman’s vagina,’ you say, ‘And then, the woman takes the man’s penis and puts it in her vagina,'” she shared. “And all of a sudden you completely change the power dynamic for the woman hearing that story.”
“Sex is wonderful,” Bell said previously on an episode of WTF With Marc Maron. “I want my kids to have sex. I want them to have good, healthy, positive, happy, wild sex.”
She also stressed that sex education is vital — and that American shame is harmful for kids learning to navigate their bodies.
“I just don’t understand the American shame in that,” she said in a March 2020 interview on the Motherly Podcast. “In fact, I think it equips them to understand pregnancy way better. The agency they have over their bodies to say, ‘Oh yeah, this is how it works…Daddy has a penis, mommy has a vagina. Here’s how it works. And here’s the part of daddy’s DNA and the part of mommy’s DNA that grows you like a seed.'”
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