Alison Sullivan
The “we are not the same” meme was first circulating on a large scale in the fall of 2019, and it’s a pretty simple idea. The way you use the meme is to compare yourself to another person and how you each relate to a third person—a love triangle if you well. The implication is that the other person is pathetically DMing your shared love interest, while you are relating to them in some other, deeper, more profound way. Thus, you are not the same. Get it?
The simplicity of the joke is what makes it so easy to use. Most people aren’t even making jokes about real relationships. They’re referring to movies, TV shows, and songs, plus making some more existential jokes I barely understand. But maybe you do, and the exact right joke is down below. We are not the same.