Stephanie Barnes
11. Not that memorable
I didn’t know until I was older that she did old-school playboy type stuff. I was shocked when I learned about it but since i never really knew as a kid it didn’t affect me all the much.
30-50_feralhogs
12. Nude model
My mom isn’t a pornstar, but a nude model for painters, photographers. this was her only secure job, but she always worked hard so that we have everything we need. she is an excellent, loving, caring mom. always made sure that I go to the best school, get the best food, always bought me good clothes, and for a single parent she did a terrific job.
7n13_
13. Quirky but good
My older half brothers dad was a porn star. He loved to open the door naked. He did it at my wedding in fact. That’s about it. He was actually an incredibly amazing man. Good to the bone. Great husband. Good dad. Volunteered. Recycled.
A bit quirky but good.
RunRevolutionary9019
14. Not mommy, but cousin
Not mother, but cousin who used to babysit me. She became a model and did some nude work she was proud of.
Didn’t bother me or really impact me at all really. Since we grew up together I never viewed her as having anything “sexual” about her. She was just the older kid I’d play and horse around with when we were young. I was glad she was pursuing her passion/career.
REALLY disturbed my friends and girlfriend though, because they thought she looked like a female version of me to an unsettling extent. Couldn’t get the image out of their heads.
Dangercakes13
15. Your mom looks familiar!
I went to 3 high schools in 3 states. The “I know your mom from somewhere” got really old really fast. Caused plenty of fights. The “can I have hee Porn Star name” still hasn’t ended, and she stopped in 2000. So many drugs, so much alcohol. I didn’t have a mom. I had a fu***d up monster. It was horrid.
SunShyne91
16. Too young to realize
My mother in law was in the adult industry for a stint in the 90s. My husband was too young to realize it, just thought that Mom had a lot of cool outfits at the time. I’m not sure when he found out, but she’s open about it. All (4) of her boys have a respect for her for doing it, she was feeding them all on her own without assistance and that’s honestly at the heart of it what a good mother does. She’s a rock star to us for taking what she had and making sure her boys were taken care of.
MalpyMleko
17. “My mother was a prostitute…”
However i suspected that she may have done porn at some point. I never had it confirmed but it was enough to scare me away from porn and I lived in fear of other kids finding out. It was bad enough when they found out that she was a pro. If they would have had actual video evidence to confront me with, i don’t think i would have made it. The only way i was able to cope with it as it was, was to just acknowledge that she was a prostitute and not get worked up when other kids would talk about what they did with her last night. I just had to learn to roll with it and tell them that her f–king them didn’t make them special since she will screw anything for a $20 bill. Having no respect for her made it easier to live with rather than having to fight everyone at school over it.
AramisNight
18. So. Much. Trauma.
I didn’t know what my Mom did growing up. It wasn’t until I was a teenager when my siblings told me because they were tired of waiting for me to figure it out on my own.
It definitely messed with me. I was pretty embarrassed not figuring it out sooner. At my sister’s baby shower one of my mom’s co-workers and her daughter were there. The daughter asked me how I coped with what our Moms did, and I was so confused. At the time I thought she was volunteering at the police station as some sort of social worker. I think the daughter figured out quickly I was oblivious and changed the subject.
My brother found out early because my Mom needed his help moving things into her ‘studio’ – a separate apartment I didn’t know she had. My older sister was always in the know.
She started out of high school when she got into modeling. Then lingerie modeling. There were some photo albums in my mom’s room that were pretty spicy. My brother’s friends found them once… that’s a different trauma, lol.
I have a jaded view on sex work because of my Mom. If it’s really okay, why did she have to lie about it most of my life? I feel like I never really knew her. That her life choices put up a wall between us that never came down.
I have a friend that got into cam work, and it bothers me because she has children. Will they go through the same sort of secrecy?
FlatteredPawn