A woman recently took to the AITA subreddit to ask if she was the a-hole for kicking her husband out of the house until he found a job.
The couple is in their 30s and she says they’ve “been married for just over a year now and things couldn’t be rockier.”
The OP explained the situation, saying, “I have a good job and make a decent amount of money, whereas my husband made not as much as me. Due to this, and the fact he was still living with his parents when we got married, we decided he would move in with me and I would continue to pay the rent and bills as long as he put money toward other things we may need as a couple. My name is the only one on the lease.”
Her husband decided to make financial decisions without first discussing them with his wife, saying that she was the “breadwinner.”
“However, once we got married, he started to cut down on his work hours without saying anything first. He gave the explanation that I made plenty of money for the both of us so he could just work part time and do the work around the house while I was the main breadwinner. I was fine with this, a little upset that he had just assumed this would be okay but I didn’t say anything as this felt fair.”
“He did do some work around the house initially, but spent the majority of his time going out to the bar, playing video games, etc. to the point where I was the one both working and doing the cooking, cleaning and other household chores,” she said. “My husband told me he was laid off two months ago for reasons out of his control. I assumed in this time that he would begin job hunting, and I began to pay for everything.”
Red flags abounded, and before long, OP found herself footing the bill for everything.
“About a week ago, I asked him how the job hunt was going and he told me that he didn’t feel like it was worth it. He said to me that he was comfortable with what we had now and I wasn’t happy to say the least. I confronted him about how I was doing everything to finance and take care of our household while he sat around and played video games (I was being an ass here, I’ll admit) and during this argument he let slip that he had actually quit and never looked for another job. I was furious that he had lied to me and told him I didn’t want him in my home right now.”