Patricia Grisafi
Child-free weddings are pretty standard, but what about grandmother-free weddings?
On Reddit, one selfish bride is fighting over keeping her fiancée’s grandmother out of the wedding basically because she will harsh the vibe.
I don’t know, maybe this bride doesn’t understand that elderly people can get down at parties? Anyway, her demand is causing a lot of difficulty — and I think it might be worth it to reexamine her priorities.
“My fiance (30M) and I (28F) are getting married next month. Everything is going great, but we’ve been having a serious argument about having his grandmother at our wedding. We’ve agreed to not have kids at our wedding, as we want the reception to be a huge party for your adult friends and family with dancing, loud music and an open bar. However, for precisely the same reasons that we don’t want kids there, I don’t want his elderly grandmother at our wedding either. I said she can come to the ceremony but not the reception. It will be extremely loud and I want it to be a party atmosphere, and she will be extremely out of place. For context, none of my grandparents are still alive, and he still has his last living grandmother,” the OP writes.
“This has caused a huge fight, since she said she has always dreamed about being at her grandson’s wedding (he is her oldest grandchild and she probably won’t make it to the next family wedding). Which is why I said that she’s more than welcome at the ceremony, but she will just be too out of place at the reception. She and he both insist that she will be fine and wants to go to the party. But I just know it will inevitably lead to us dealing with her and taking care of her, and I just want to get drunk and let loose with my friends. She’s now really upset and won’t talk to me, and my fiance is also angry. I think I am within my right to make this request, I am the bride after all.”
What do Redditors think?
“YTA. Not sure how you could be more TA to be honest. You’re hearing the love of your life say this is important. You’re hearing someone really important to your partner say this is important. And you’re putting getting drunk ahead of that? FFS. She’s been a grown adult longer than you’ve been alive – I’m pretty sure she can handle any tiredness and noise as she wishes. If I was your partner I’d be noticing the red flags,” said EssexCatWoman.
“Imagine living for 98 years and then being told your presence would ruin a party. My God, the woman has seen 98 years worth of parties but this one wedding is going to be too intense for her? Get over yourself indeed,” said caro1007.
“I was expecting her to say that granny has dementia or something and would be disoriented or scared or need constant supervision (like a child). But the post doesn’t even hint at anything like that. And I’d expect someone that old to have some mobility issues, but that just means she won’t be dancing, and someone else may need to refill her drink and help her to the restroom occasionally. I’m guessing some people are planning to drive home after the event, and would therefore be sober enough to give her a hand. So much YTA,” noted ForgettenPasswords.
Twitter user @chick_in_kiev shared the story, and even more folks got angry.
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