Anna Good
A woman took to Reddit’s AITA subreddit after her knee-jerk reaction to hearing her husband and in-laws trash-talking her sent her flying home from their family vacation.
In the post, she wrote, “My husband goes on annual vacations with his family. I’m on okay terms with them but since we’ve only been married for a short time and I don’t see his family much, we still have that barrier that keeps is from being completely comfortable around each other.”
Wanting to get to know your in-laws is perfectly understandable, and in an attempt to get to know her husband’s family, she asked him if she could come along as well.
“His family arranged for the vacation last week. I out of curiosity asked if I could come,” she wrote. “My husband felt [hesitant] but I told him it’d be a great opportunities to get to know his family better. He agreed to take me and his family were surprised to see me but still welcomed me.”
Things turned sour on the third day of the family vacation, however, when the OP was preparing food and overheard an upsetting conversation.
“His dad, mom, brothers and spouses were all sitting at a table outside talking while I was preparing a fruit salad,” the woman wrote. “As I was making my way back I overheard my MIL say ‘…did she really had nowhere else to spend the weekend?’ At first I had no idea who she was talking about so I kept on walking, but stopped once I overheard my husband say ‘l KNOW!!!! And I didn’t want to bring her with me but what was I supposed to do?!!! You know how pushy she can get.’”
“I instantly figured it was about me. I felt so shaken up to the point where I almost dropped the salad. This whole time I was there I cleaned, cooked, looked after the kids and this is how they think of me? An inconvenience to them?” she asked of her husband’s family.
OP decided the best move was to leave since the family clearly didn’t want her there.
“I quietly booked a ticket and went home on the first plane. He called and texted but I didn’t respond anything other than let him know I was home,” she said. “He got back and went off on me saying what I did was disrespectful and juvenile. I told him I overheard the conversation he had with his mom but he said that I was wrong for eavesdropping and that his family will warm up to me on their terms so I should stop pushing to be around that when they don’t feel comfortable with it. Basically saying it was my fault for coming along in the first place. He said that going home like made him and his family disappointed and gave them a really bad impression about me.”
The people of Reddit, however, told her that she hadn’t overreacted and that there were some very clear red flags about her relationship with her husband that she needed to address.
