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Woman Collects DMs About How The Pandemic Is Ending Marriages

@girlziplocked/Twitter

In the last year, we’ve all learned a lot about ourselves and a lot about the people in our immediate vicinities—because we can’t get away from them.

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Those of us who are taking COVID-19 seriously are pretty much just seeing the people we live with and occasionally making eye contact with strangers at the grocery store.

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Even people who aren't taking COVID seriously are probably having their lives rearranged, as people lose jobs or work from home or are adapting to their kids learning over Zoom.

Perspectives are shifting.

A Twitter user named @girlziplocked asked their followers to share their stories about how "this pandemic proved to you the disutility of heterosexual marriage" speaking primarily to women.

She invited them to DM their stories so "I can show my female friends they're not alone in this."

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Before the messages started rolling in, they shared some more of their thoughts on why the pandemic is making many women realize heterosexual marriage can be a burden and not a gift in times of stress.

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In their opinion, women are asked to not only do a disproportionate amount of work around the house, but it also becomes their responsibility to make the emotional component "work." When a marriage is bad, that becomes their responsibility, too.

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They explained that this gendered split in heterosexual relationships is something "that men don’t even comprehend because it’s so taken for granted that it’s not their role."

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Followers began pouring out their stories in the DMs which @girlziplocked screenshot and shared with permission. Lots of women seem to be realizing that they do not want to spend their lives with the men who have let them down in this pandemic, refusing to meet them halfway with childcare, housekeeping, and even the breadwinning they're supposed to be so good at.

But a lot of women in marriages realize they may be facing difficult economics after a divorce, and their husbands are well aware of that:

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Also this is blood-boiling:

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The stories are worth reading because maybe you'll recognize something you're going through in your marriage—or something you're putting someone else through.

1. My therapist asked if I would want either of my kids in the marriage I was currently in."

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2. "I can't tell you how relieved I am to have left my... ex-husband in 2019."

3. "The reality is that when hetero unions fall apart, women are left without economic stability and holding most of the familial responsibility."

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4. "I opened my own bank account and have a separate savings."

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5. "I do all the house stuff, bankroll everything except groceries."

6. "This is absolutely not how I'm going to spend the rest of my life."

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7. "Literally cannot wait to get a divorce, as my marriage has evolved from being merely extremely unhappy to being held emotionally hostage as the caretaker and sole breadwinner."

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8. "I constantly had to remind him to wash his hands when he came home."

9. "We just started an in-house separation and I feel so goddamn free."

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10. "My husband decided, when lockdown was announced, he would spend it with his sister...the next three weeks were actually bliss!"

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