All relationships can be tricky at times; and marriage is on a whole other level, all by itself. So, recently, when a Redditor shared her displeasure that her husband was spending a disproportionate amount of time with his newly divorced female best friend, her situation garnered a wide range of responses.
There is, of course, no one right answer; everyone’s boundaries are different, and the most important thing is for a married couple to share the same boundaries, and to respect each other’s even when their opinions may differ. But it seems like this couple, weirdly enough, hasn’t even done much talking in terms of what their boundaries are.
As the Redditor (who deleted her post twenty-four hours later) explained:
Several Redditors suggested that it was no big deal, and that trusting her husband while also communicating that she felt neglected or “insecure” would probably solve the problem.
Incidentally, those same Redditors who supported the husband in being “a good friend” to the newly divorced lady also had a lot of negative things to say about the OP’s friends.
Others, however, saw it differently, and at least wanted to ask for a bit more context about how the situation was unfolding.
And mostly, those with two brain cells to rub together thought there was something off about the whole situation.
They didn’t jump to the conclusion that an affair was taking place, but they did point out that platonic best friends in their 30s don’t usually spend the lion’s share of every weekend alone together, especially if one of them has a life partner.
They also pointed out that most healthy, well-adjusted adults in their 30s have their own full social lives and hobbies, and don’t get all of their emotional sustenance from only one person or friendship.
Since the OP deleted her post, it seems unlikely that we’ll ever know how the situation turned out for her. We can only hope her husband started behaving like, well, her husband, and making her his top priority…or that OP decides he, too, is about to be newly divorced.