People getting married have a reputation for being entitled and unhinged, but this story on Reddit’s r/AmItheA–hole posted by u/weddingproperty really takes the cake for outrageous wedding demands. He says one of his best friends, Carla, is getting married and the ceremony was supposed to take place on his property. He has a big open space for a socially distanced reception, and the couple would be able to get ready at the house.
The OP is married himself now, but in college, he and Carla dated off and on. They remained friends and then Carla met Rick, her future husband. The problem is that Rick didn’t seem to know the history there when he made plans to marry on OP’s lawn.
He found out recently from a mutual friend, though the OP doesn’t know why that friend made the reveal. And it got worse:
Not only that but apparently Carla said a couple years ago she was still in love with me when she was already dating Rick. Don’t have actual confirmation if that’s exactly what he was told. All Carla’s told me is that Rick was told about our past and he’s angry at her for never saying anything.
It became quite a drama and didnt hear from her for over a month until now. She told me they’re going to couples counseling and that the wedding is still on. But Rick requested that I not attend. It sucks but I totally get why he wouldn’t be comfortable. Then I asked the obvious question, where are they going to hold the wedding then? To my surprise she said they still want it at our place.
Rick said so too and in my mind I’m going “he doesn’t want the guy who dated his fiancée years ago at the wedding, but still wants the wedding at his house.” My wife and I are expected to just…not be at our home that weekend, And I told Carla no. They’re going to have to find some place else since we’re not going to simply leave our home to them for the weekend. Not only for safety reasons but it just doesn’t make sense. Rick doesn’t want me around because he’s not comfortable but is comfortable enough to have their wedding at my house?
Sounds reasonable to me! But Rick and his family are not reasonable people, and the OP has been getting harassed on all fronts. He’s been accused of being “petty” for not allowing the ceremony at his house even though he’s no longer welcome there. So he asked Reddit if he was really the one being unreasonable here. NO!!!!! HE’S NOT!
They’re especially baffled by the way Rick has said it’s the “least he can do after everything.”
There has been an update on the situation—OP says that Carla and Rick have called the wedding off, and the OP is taking some space from her and the friends who were trying to pressure him to host the wedding even though he wasn’t invited. It’s not said directly, but it is kind of implied that Carla might still be in love with him. Which really makes it unreasonable to get married at his house.