TikToker @living_with_sj recently asked fellow TikTokers “how they found out their ex-spouse was cheating” — and she shared her own story as well.
“Mine was working out of the country. One time, when he came back for some R&R, which was supposed to be two weeks, he was acting super weird,” she says in the video.

“So, he ends up leaving a week early, and then sends me a text saying, ‘Hey, I don’t want to talk to you for an entire week. I’m not gonna answer your phone calls because I wanna make sure that marriage is something I really want.'”
“[He] completely ghosted, and I even tried to look on the credit card, but the password was changed. So then, I called the number on the back of the card, and since I’m an authorized user, they told me the recent charges, which were hotels, bars, restaurants…”

“I messaged him saying, ‘Hey, I know what you’re doing,’ and he said, ‘When I come back, I’ll decide if we stay married.’ And I said, ‘That’s not how this works. We’re getting a divorce.'”
SJ’s TikTok went viral and she uploaded a follow-up video about her life after divorce.
The comments were full of people sharing their own cheating spouse stories:
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“Mine started coming home super late after work and started ignoring my calls. Five months passed, and he came home with a mark on his neck. I said bye!” —maribelgarcia355
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“I saw a very explicit text between him and a friend of mine. Within 10 minutes, I let her husband know what was going on. He begged me not to call the husband, but I did. I filed for divorce, as this wasn’t the first time.” —misstywise
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“Confirmed when my daughter came home from his wedding with his new wife. In her vows, she said when they started dating.”—upde2
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“I busted her behind buildings with other men. She said, ‘That wasn’t me.’ I’m divorced now.”—christopherzalapa
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“Another woman left him a voicemail, saying, ‘You haven’t come to see us for a month.’ He had a child with someone else — I never knew until that moment.”—abejitabella
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“Someone I didn’t know, who worked as a nurse with my ex, came into my restaurant. She asked, ‘Are you Aaron?’ I said yes. She told me everything.”—aaronallen795
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“My ex ghosted me for two weeks, came back saying he was teaching me a lesson. The door locks were changed.”—amri19754
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“Mine had a second Facebook messenger hidden in a fake calculator app [on his phone].”—abby_1a
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“18.5 years of marriage, and for the first time ever, I went through his phone. Everything was right there.”—reneec05
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“He started having sexual conversations in his sleep — while saying her name.” —forever_learning2021